Whether you are one of the fortunate couples that can divorce amicably or the process is a bit more complicated and contentious, getting a divorce is a major life event that can leave you feeling as though your life has been turned upside down. While staying positive during this difficult process may be challenging, you may be surprised to discover some silver linings associated with a divorce.
Often, the months or even years leading up to a divorce can be significantly more stressful and painful than it is once you decide to proceed with a divorce and dissolve a marriage that is no longer working. You may be surprised to discover the mental, physical, and emotional benefits of ending an unhealthy or even toxic relationship. The following are some of the ways that a divorce can have a positive impact on you, your children, and your relationship with your ex:
- Healthier household: When you and your spouse constantly argue or give each other the silent treatment, it can strain the entire household. Children pick up on stress and tension, even if you are not fighting in front of them. If you are unable to resolve your issues, a divorce can eventually create a healthier, more stress-free home environment, both for you and your children. White co-parenting may be unfamiliar territory, but the benefits will likely outweigh any disadvantages, particularly if you prioritize your children’s best interests.
- Improved self-confidence: A broken relationship can negatively impact self-confidence. Once you start the divorce process and are no longer affected by stress and negativity, the self-confidence that you lost may start to return.
- Improved coping skills: Often, when you go through a challenging situation, you learn certain skills, like problem-solving and being more patient. These skills can help you navigate your personal and professional life after the divorce.
- You know what you want from a partner: Once you have reached a divorce agreement, you may want to start dating again at some point. After going through a divorce and realizing the qualities and characteristics you do not want in a partner, you can avoid making the same mistake. Second marriages are often happier than first ones because divorced people have learned from their previous experience and are less likely to rush into another relationship if the person meets their expectations.
- Improved health: Besides an improved sense of self, your overall health may improve. According to research, stress can negatively impact your mental, physical, and emotional health. While the divorce process can be stressful, once a divorce agreement has been reached, you may feel healthier, more energetic, happier, and more confident. You may feel motivated to start going to the gym or a regular exercise routine and focus on a healthy diet.
- Happier children: Couples often stay together because they think it will be better for the children. However, the impacts of an unhealthy marriage can be much more damaging than proceeding with a divorce and being committed to a co-parenting plan that prioritizes your children’s needs.
- Reconnecting with family and friends: After the dust settles and your divorce has been finalized, it is a great opportunity for you to spend time with family friends whom you have not seen in a while or form new friendships with those who have recently gotten divorced and are in the same boat as you.
- Become more financially independent: While the prospect of being newly single and the financial challenges that come with it can be stressful and overwhelming, you can take more control over your finances. For example, you have more control over your money and how you choose to budget your finances. As a single parent, you may be eligible for more financial aid for college. You may also have early access to retirement funds and Social Security perks.
Our Bergen County Divorce Lawyers at Torchin Martel Orr LLC Assist Clients With Every Phase of the Divorce Process
If you and your spouse are seeking a divorce, contact our Bergen County divorce lawyers at Torchin Martel Orr LLC. Going through a divorce does not have to be a highly stressful and contentious process. To schedule a consultation, call us today at 201-971-4866 or contact us online. Located in Paramus, New Jersey, we serve clients in Bergen County, Morris County, Essex County, Hudson County, and the surrounding towns in northern New Jersey.